I want my bf to tell our stalker we are in relationship...but he refuses. help?

Could be she put you through hell not him, which is why he's probably not so bothered. But on the other hand he may not have mentioned being in a relationship with you incase it sends her off the deep end and makes things worse. Either way, record everything she's doing, because if it get's worse you'll need a restraining order. If your happy in a relationship with him then your the winner in all of this and stop reading what she puts on his wall, better still your bf should really just be blocking her from posting on his wall. Wouldn't that be the simplest solution. If you ask him and he doesn't block her ask him why? What possible sensible answer could he give?? Use your head and judge the situation for yourself it's soo hard to read between the lines on this site. If you think he's not bothered enough and your not feeling happy in your relationship then end it and move on. Love only carries a relationship so far, the 2 people in it have to do all the work. It's a 2 way street!